Dismissing of the Blog

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The Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself Today

Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a care-free, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everybody wants that -- it's easy to want that.

If I ask you, "What do you want out of life?" and you say something like, "I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like," it's so ubiquitous that it doesn't even mean anything.

Everyone wants that. So what's the point?

What's more interesting to me is what pain do you want? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives end up.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence -- but not everyone is willing to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, with the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship -- but not everyone is willing to go through the tough communication, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder "What if?" for years and years and until the question morphs from "What if?" into "What for?" And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, "What was it all for?" If not for their lowered standards and expectations for themselves 20 years prior, then what for?

Because happiness requires struggle. You can only avoid pain for so long before it comes roaring back to life.

At the core of all human behavior, the good feelings we all want are more or less the same. Therefore what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we're willing to sustain.

"Nothing good in life comes easy," we've been told that a hundred times before. The good things in life we accomplish are defined by where we enjoy the suffering, where we enjoy the struggle.

People want an amazing physique. But you don't end up with one unless you legitimately love the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don't end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to love the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not. Some people are wired for that sort of pain, and those are the ones who succeed.

People want a boyfriend or girlfriend. But you don't end up attracting amazing people without loving the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It's part of the game of love. You can't win if you don't play.

What determines your success is "What pain do you want to sustain?"

I've always loved the idea of being a surfer, yet I've never made consistent effort to surf regularly. Truth is: I don't enjoy the pain that comes with paddling until my arms go numb and having water shot up my nose repeatedly. It's not for me. The cost outweighs the benefit. And that's fine.

On the other hand, I am willing to live out of a suitcase for months on end, to stammer around in a foreign language for hours with people who speak no English to try and buy a cell phone, to get lost in new cities over and over and over again. Because that's the sort of pain and stress I enjoy sustaining. That's where my passion lies, not just in the pleasures, but in the stress and pain.

There's a lot of self development advice out there that says, "You've just got to want it enough!"

That's only partly true. Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something badly enough. They just aren't being honest with themselves about what they actually want that bad.

If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the six pack, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten.

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe you don't actually want it at all.

So I ask you, "How are you willing to suffer?"

Because you have to choose something. You can't have a pain-free life. It can't all be roses and unicorns.

Choose how you are willing to suffer.

Because that's the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have the same answer.

The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Because that answer will actually get you somewhere. It's the question that can change your life. It's what makes me me and you you. It's what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together.

So what's it going to be?

By: Mark Manson

Source: HuffingtonPost

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They Don;t Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don't Give Away Their Power
They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. The Don't Shy Away From Courage
Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don't Waste Energy on Things They Can't Control
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don't Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don't Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They Don't Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don't Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They Don't Resent Other People's Success
Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don't Give Up After the First Failure
Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don't Fear Alone Time
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don't Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They Don't Expect Immediate Results
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.


Source: LifeHack

9 Unluckiest People Ever

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Why We Shouldn't Judge People on First Impression

First impressions happen; it is an inconvenient reality. When we meet someone for the first time, we judge him or her involuntarily, maybe driven by our survival instinct or simple social practice. Fifty-percent of that judgment is a perception of the person’s movements, gestures, voice, etc. The rest is simple: their appearance.

Pop culture is evidence of this social pattern. Let’s take, for example, the acclaimed 90s cult movie, “10 Things I Hate About You.” Its evident connection to the Shakespearean play, The Taming of The Shrew, refers to strong characters and the way they follow stereotypes and, even more, break them. Patrick Verona, a mysterious teenager, is charmingly played by the legendary, Heath Ledger. His dark exterior left the whole school wondering about his apparent dangerous personality.

His subtle sarcastic comebacks, long black hair and overly washed jeans complemented his careless and slightly criminal personality, making him troublesome at a single glance. After a bet, a rose, a sincere apology and a charismatic performance, we meet the real Patrick with his same washed jeans, dark shirts and combat boots.

Now the difficult teenager becomes more attractive, his Australian accent more evident and each eloquent response makes him even more interesting. In the end – spoiler alert – the unconventional leading man gets the feminist, Sylvia Plath enthusiast, Kat. He lets his armor down, and we see the rebirth of a sentimental, masculine, green-eyed gentleman.

The development of this character takes me back to real life. What happens when, at first, we find someone difficult or off-putting and, with time, we discover they are actually quite warm. Does perception change with style? Maybe, when we get to understand someone’s personality along with their fashion choices, our judgment fades away and we let them wear whatever they want. We allow them to be who they are, freely. In some way we like the person no matter what they are wearing.

Surpassing fashion or social rules, in the end, personality is what remains because fashion is as personal as Whatsapp messages or the meaning of our emotional tattoos. A smile surpasses a bad haircut, a black and brown outfit, and of course a denim low-rise mini skirt…well, that might take a little bit more time.

In the end, Kat Stratford closed her poem to Patrick, “I hate you. I hate your combat boots. But mostly, I hate the way I don’t hate you, not a even close, not even a little bit, not even at all.”

We sure hope that when people judge us, they love our fashion choices for who we are. The little weird details of our personalities are what set us apart. There’s no perfection, just willingness to appreciate the uniqueness in everyone.

Source: Elite Daily

The Difference Between Dating and One Night Stand

In this twenty first century, it’s a fad to have one night stand. They discuss about one night stand everywhere from friends to strangers in chat rooms.A lot of people have different perspective on this one night stand. Some thinks this is dating, some thinks it is the way to a fine relationship and lot other things it is just a hookup. Most of them do not know what one night stand is and how it is different from casual dating.

If you are one of the bigger crowd, read on to understand the difference between dating and one night stand.

First let me tell you one thing, the terms dating and one night stand are different terms with different meanings. There is a huge amount of differences between Dating and one night stand. When you meet your beloved more and more, you tend to understand him/her more and more likely it becomes dating that will lead you to some relationship which lasts longer.So this makes dating your beloved a base for any future relations and to understand him/her. Remember dating does not lead to sex; however dating leads to something pure understanding of your beloved which is more important in your relationship.

On the other hand, one night stand is just a onetime thing no more than that. A one night stand can be initiated in a pub or a bar but a Dating cannot. If everything is smooth between you two, then you might spend your night together but in morning you become strangers.

Mostly one night stands happen between those who are on high on that particular instant or to spice up a little bit. On any one night stand, there will not be any seriousness between both men and women. Most times you will know very little about each other or nothing at all.

A one night stand:
1. Happens between strangers who just like to spice a bit
2. Happens when there is an instant mood to get hooked
3. Mostly it happens when you are depressed

4. Might know very little or nothing at all about each other

Casual dating happens between two people who would know each other well. It is not a one night stand but there would be some intimacy or some occasional pleasure.Singles use dating to know each other better.

A casual dating:
1. Happens between people who know each other
2. Not for hookup but for those who look for some intimacy in their relationship
3. Helps to know each other better.
4. Happens when there is a match between daters. Both people put their effort to hold on to their relationships.

5. Is not restricted to one nights, but many nights

Remember a bad dating can end a great relationship before it even starts but not a one night stand. So daters would put their best effort to save their relationships.









Source: bPenfriends

The Science Behind Obsession

#5. From the Plains to Perez

Why do we imitate, idolize, and gossip about the rich and famous? Why do we devour every bit of news about our favorite (or least favorite) celebrities? We don't even know them! What's with this? The answer can be found in something called SCIENCE! Everybody gasp!

So put on your anthropology hat. Well, first go find an anthropology hat. Or, maybe just make an anthropology hat (use those iron on letters from the craft store) and join us on an adventure you'll hopefully remember.
First stop: (We're pretending to be on a tour bus. Don't judge.) — the plains of Africa 3.4 billion years ago. (ooh! ahh!)




#4 Foxes Mate for Life

Obsession. Infatuation. Keeping a magazine cut out of Natalie Portman in a frame in your room like you were the first one to think that was funny. These are the telltale signs of our love of celebrities. Did you think they were making Teen Bop magazine (with the fold out posters that need like a thousand thumb tacks to lay flat) for the music? No way! Those magazines, blogs, TMZ reruns are an innocent way to obsess about those oh so desirable celebrities and their oh so desirable dates.

They are oh so desirable, and fabulous, and fascinating because:
1) they're good looking and talented just like those that kept us safe long ago.
2) Biology makes us feel infatuated with people that would make great baby daddies. When we're infatuated with someone, we're completely obsessed with what they're doing.




#3. The Pretty Sister

Another reason why we're so into celebs is that they're just like us, only better. Did Kim Kardashian just flash before your eyes again? Yeah, us too. There is no way she's better than us. She doesn't even do anything. Choosing fabric for a designer to use is not a job This is the last type of celebrity, and this is why we care:

Yeah, we don't know how to sing or do gymnastics but look at that guy. He's an idiot! He's all guarding the tribe like he's the only guy that's ever guarded a tribe—we could probably guard the tribe way better than him! One time we saw him at the river drinking the same water he had just peed in. And his hair looked like crap! He's no better than us! Why does he deserve all of the attention? Silly, they don't deserve it. They just get it. Because we're all bored and we're all jerks.




#2. Boredom is Such Sweet Sorrow

It used to be fun to copy their style via Old Navy and H&M rip offs. But now we're sick of them being all perfect and it's time. to. take. them. down.

Hey, remember when they did that really stupid thing? Well, we got a picture of it and now we're telling everybody! So the smack down begins. But sometimes that gets old. And there's always those people on TV that try to make us feel bad for making fun of how fat Jessica Simpson got when she was pregnant. Oh, the fatties. They gain weight. They lose weight. We have to talk trash about someone though. It may as well be that fat guy who thinks he knows how to guard against lions better than we do. Idiot.




#1. The Stars That Never Were

The last category of famous people are those we make famous for no reason other than to be human piñatas. Instead of candy, juicy and humiliating stories burst out of them if we hit them hard enough. You have to hit really hard. No peeking!

Eventually, we got tired of drooling over the old candy from the piñata and our favorite celebrity. We got tired of cyber stalking their bf/gf. We got tired of their perfect bodies/lives/dramatic acting. We got tired of watching photographers harass them when they didn't deserve it. We got tired of having no one to make fun that did deserve it. We got tired of everyone talking about them constantly. Then we got tired of doing our work and wanted to see what those beautiful bastards were up to.

And we couldn't get enough.

The end.








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